A Safe Place For Your Mind

Our emotions tend to dominate our actions and reactions, even though we like to claim otherwise. Society often sees emotions as a sign of weakness, so we got used to putting them aside and try to focus on the rational details of life. But no matter how strict and logical you want to be, you will always be a human being, not a robot, and so you will always feel. (not a bad thing!)

Having an upbeat outlook and being positive is a life long goal for all of us. After all, what is more important, in the end...how much money you made during your life or how many times you you hugged your child? However, for many people their happiness is overshadowed by a negative cloud. This is one of the biggest problems you will face during your life. There is no obvious way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with positive ones. It just doesn't work that way.

As a child, if your dog dies, you experience sadness. Your parents will certainly buy you another dog, but the sorrow still takes a long time to go away. Things get even more serious with adults. A fight with your spouse the night before will affect your entire day. You will go to work upset and angry, with your mind focused on that negative experience. Then you will go home in an even worse mood. You won't be able to notice the sun shining or your favorite song on the radio. All of this because of that one negative experience is filling you with contaminating thoughts that alter the way you perceive the reality around you.

What you need is a safe place to relax your mind and regain your perspective. And that place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual location or a place within your mind. The best idea is to totally emerge yourself in it. Let's say you have a problem on your mind and it just won't go away. Go bowling! You don't know how to bowl, you say? No problem, go out and try it! Get caught up in the game, think about those funny shoes, choose a favorite ball, invent new strategies to throw and so on. Your mind will suddenly jump from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.

A safe place can come in many forms. It can be a song, a movie, even a person. The main thing is to allow yourself to get completely involved with this new activity. You might still think about the problem every now and then - ignore them and get even more involved in what you are doing.

When the bowling game, the song, the movie or the conversation ends you will have a rather abrupt return to your problems. You will probably feel upset again and want to go back to the safe place. Don't do that. The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your problems. It is there to help you relax your mind, for a few minutes or hours. This is a vital stage in your solution to what is bothering you. You will return from your safe place with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence that any issue can be resolved. This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your fighting energy and allow you to solve even the most difficult problems.

These are great suggestions and work wonders on banishing negative thoughts. But I want you to find a way to minimize these bad days. The way to do this is to start a consistent meditation routine. Yes, it's true; take 30 minutes a day to sit with yourself and your mind. After about a week you will find that every moment is filled with more peace and solace.

Most people have a difficult time sitting quietly for any amount of time. The solution is to use a meditation CD with special frequencies that ease your mind into a state that makes it much easier to sit and meditation. Find more information here --> Meditation Music.

Be Well,

Mark McCoid
HealingProducts.com
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